About the Author: Thomas E Ziemann is a Spiritual Researcher with over 37 years of experience in Meditation Practice and hosting Satsang’s. He has written two books. He is a Motivational, Keynote Speaker, a Published Author, and a Life Purpose Coach. Tom gives nationwide, uplifting lectures and teaches meditation and sculpting classes. He is happily married to his best friend. He has nine amazing cats that keep this “crazy cat man” busy. He lives near Portland, Oregon.
“The Loneliness Factor; Falling in Love with Love”
Oh Man…If only I could have learned this simple, but profound lesson early on in my lonely single life. Looking back today with more mature eyes, having become more emotionally grounded, I lament just how many beautiful relationships could have blossomed? Sadly, they never did. I tried too hard to impress, gave too much too soon, shared way too much too early on…the bottom line was that I wanted to make it work so badly…I got so excited thinking I finally found “The One” that I through my brain to the wind and acted impulsively…I smothered, acted controlling and ended up pushing these class act women away. That putrid stench of Neediness permeated my being.
The truth was that I fell in love with the “idea of love,” got swept up in its alluring euphoria and not the real person. This works both ways in any romantic relationship.…
This is still something I struggle with today; there is a fine line between being a man wanting to show his partner how much he cares and coming off too intense and having to be with her every second. Not giving her enough space to breath.
I feel blessed today to have finally become aware of my “glomming on” aspect of my persona; I have found someone who helps keep me on an emotional even keel. She helps me see the bigger picture. Truth be told, I almost pissed this one away too. For the first time in my adult life…I let my ego go; I didn’t try to impress her as I once would have. Talk is cheap, Actions show one’s true character. It’s worked wonders for me. Anyone can learn from my myriad of mistakes. If you are not willing to see yourself in an unflattering light, you will never grow to your full potential.
Don’t give up. Allow things to unfold naturally. It does no good to push the river.
If you’re reading this, keep the faith.… I’m a believer in that we receive the love we believe we are worthy of. Don’t overlook a potentially rewarding relationship because on the surface it doesn’t seem like the “Perfect one”.
Follow your heart…but trust your gut.
“Pain as the Redeemer”
Every single one of your reading this has been hurt. There has never existed a person in history who wasn’t. Bitten once, twice shy they acted. Good advice is to take some calculated risks. Small ones often receive small rewards but may lead to great resolve by having taken baby steps.
Will you get burned? Perhaps… however the greatest experience you could enjoy maybe taking that one chance that defines your lifetime. When we close up our heart; we think we are protecting it; as a result, we become an island of isolation. We miss the good we often would enjoy by fearing to attempt. Ships are safe in harbor, but they are meant for the sea. It will take dogmatic courage to get knocked down 8 times to get up 9. No one says it will be easy. Life doesn’t offer any guarantee of lasting happiness nor inner peace. The greatest rewards lie just outside of our comfort zone. Greatness is defined by overcoming seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Generally, it’s not people we don’t know who betray us. It’s the one’s we hold dear who can become careless or uncaring. Sometimes by bruising our heart we open the gateway to our soul. Take solace in knowing you made a go of it, make time to grieve then get back up on the horse.
Keep the faith.
Remember that which you are seeking is also seeking you.
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